Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Me, that's all I have to give
What you see is what you see
No second guessing, no pretending
With you, all I ever have to be is me
I have always felt comfortable being "me." I never felt like I needed to pretend to be somebody else. I figured if people didn't like "me," then that was their problem. This did obviously lead to some bruised feelings on my part, but I never felt that I should be any different than who I am. Anytime you put a part of yourself out there by trying to make new friends, speaking to a group of people, blogging, etc, you risk rejection, or at the very least misunderstanding. I have been very fortunate not to have negative comments on this blog so far. However, I am aware of several places that have blocked my blog for questionable content (probably due to the posts on breastfeeding, feminine hygeine, hormone imbalances, etc).
I wanted to take a moment to share with my blog followers (and blog stalkers....I know you are out there...) why I chose to write those types of posts on my blog and why I intend to leave them for all to see. First and foremost, I believe it is better to be real, than to give people what they want and be fake. Secondly and perhaps most importantly, the kinds of information I post to this blog, are oftentimes things that people don't know much about.
Lets take breastfeeding for example, nutrition experts will now tell you that infants need to be fed only breastmilk or formula for the first 6 months of life. Less than 30% of parents in the United States feed their children exculsively breastmilk or formula. Significantly fewer of those parents exculsively breastfeed. Now, I am NOT trying to say that moms who don't breastfeed or add cereal to formula are inferior. That would be ridiculous. If you love your child, then you are doing a heck of a better job than a lot of parents out there. However, that does mean that there is significantly less support and knowledge available for exclusively breastfeeding moms versus the overwhelming majority (and lets face it....some of the knowledge that is out there is crap).
God made breasts so that mothers could feed their babies, and I have no problem talking about how it works, problems that might come up, etc. Likewise, God gave women their reproductive tracts and cycles, and I have no problem talking about that either. Especially in light of the fact that if you leave a commercially produced tampon in for too long it can kill you, I think that is a very important product to discuss. I understand that different amounts of information are appropriate at different ages, and I do try to keep the information I do present factual and tasteful. However, this has made me wonder.....could it be that some of the problems we are seeing: teen pregnancies, lack of responsibility, etc, could be related to the fact that we shield children from the facts and responsibilities of life for too long? I don't know the answer, but I do know that if Jessica were to ask about anything in the next year or two that I have posted on here, I would be completely comfortable explaining it to her: "Well, when girls grow up, they bleed sometimes. It's normal." "Well, when you become a mommy, you make milk to feed the baby." "Daddies don't make milk because God didn't make them that way, but daddies do sometimes help."
I am sorry if I ever make anyone uncomfortable. It is not intentional. However, I do not appologize for the content of this blog and do not intend to change it. I write about real life and how to live it in a frugal, healthy, and self-sufficient way. If you ever have a personal or regional crisis, this is the kind of information that will help you make it through the tough times, and you just might discover that some of the things our grandparents used to do aren't really so arcaic after all.
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
When I was little, Mom had a pretty tight grocery budget. I know she once made 1 pound of ground beef last 5 meals! But she always managed to put food on the table. It might not have been foods we liked, but it always consisted of the nutrients we needed. I have mentioned before the important lessons my parents taught me about money. If there is anything else they taught me that has been as useful as what they taught me about money, then it would have to be what they taught me about food. When I was growing up, if mom cooked it, then you ate it because you weren't getting anything else. There are several foods I am to this day not a huge fan of, but I always eat them if someone goes to the trouble of making them. You never know, one day I might start liking lima beans! I also learned that you should never put more on your plate than you can eat because those leftovers could be saved for another meal. Once it was threatened that I would have to eat the ketchup I had put on my plate with a spoon! I will admit I still have a little problem with this one.....probably because growing up in a large family I also learned that if you don't get it the first time it goes around, you won't be getting any!! Of everything I learned around the dinner table growing up, I think it all boils down to learning to value and truly appreciate the food you have to eat.
I think the kind of eating habits and behavior we are seeing in younger generations is just another sign of how spoiled and unappreciative our society has gotten as a whole. Used to be whether you liked it or not when dinner was served you sat down and ate it without complaining because at least you had the good fortune of actually HAVING dinner that night. I really think society has done younger generations a huge disservice by not engendering an appreciation for having food to eat. What we end up with is a society full of people who don't know what a balanced diet is, who don't like foods that are good for them, who are very picky eaters, who go to a dinner party and tell the host, "I don't like that," and who are generally ungrateful. When you really think about it, the saying, "You are what you eat" takes on a whole new meaning.
Saturday, December 26, 2009
For the grandparents on both sides, I will be sending dvds full of pictures of Jessica, videos from Christmas and Jessica's birthday, and the ultrasound of the new baby. However, they will not receive these until the end of January because some of these events have not occurred yet! A very economical gift, but something they will truly enjoy!
For my parents, all of my married siblings, David's sister, and a few neighbors, we made gifts baskets that included a variety of homemade goodies: strawberry jam, oatmeal honey soap, fudge, magic bars, hot chocolate mix, ranch oyster crackers, and sugar cookies! This was also a very economical gift, but it is also really nice because everything is consumable!!!! No random gift items to figure out what to do with when you go home! I am most excited to see what my sister, Kim, thinks about her gift because she always loves homemade gifts!! My unmarried siblings got dvds we found on sale at Wal-mart. They both really enjoy watching movies.
What made the experience truly....memorable....was that I had two friends from down the street with all or most of our small children in my house at least once a week for the last month making all of these things!!! It was truly an experience!! But, we did have a lot of fun!! There were quite a few times we messed things up because we were trying to multiply batches and keep up with all of the shrieking children in my house! Thankfully, it all turned out just fine! If we do this next year, then I think we will have to start earlier!!!
And those are all of the gifts we made this year outside of Jessica's (which you already saw) and one for either David's dad or David's mom. I am keeping that one under my hat until we exchange gifts with them in a few days! Overall I felt like we came out pretty well this year: all homemade gifts except for 4! Hopefully, everyone will enjoy them as much as we enjoyed making them!
Friday, December 25, 2009
We also opened gifts that my extended family had mailed to us since we weren't going to be able to make the trip this year. Jessica enjoyed playing with her puzzle, play fruit/veggies, Sesame Street figures, and her bathtub baby doll; however, she spent most of the rest of the evening accessorizing with a box my mom had sent that included one new outfit with quite a few different matching accessories!
Once Jessica went to bed, I did my best to set the tree back the way it was before many tiny hands redecorated it for me.
Yes, to the left of the tree is what Santa brought Jessica! This is the same kitchen David build earlier this season. We finished it out with a paint job and a few new accessories! I set the dishes and play food she already had on it to make it look like Santa played with it! Here is a picture of the whole thing!
The inside of the oven, complete with her pan of felt cookies from Easter!
The inside of the fridge, complete with the bag of fruit and veggies from Grandma and Grandpa.
We don't have any still pictures from Christmas morning, just video, which is not edited yet. When we let her out of her room, she ran straight past the living room into our kitchen. I had to turn her around to show her that Santa had come! Then she said something that sounded like, "What's this?" Followed very quickly by a, "Wow!" She immediately started cooking. Her daddy made a point of building the kitchen to be very strong; however, she already managed to break the oven door so Daddy is going to have to fix it so it will be even stronger! I was also glad he thought to build it to be very heavy. Once the cat jumped up on it, Jessica decided she wanted to climb it too!
We still have a little bit more Christmasing to do this week when my sister comes to town followed by David's parents, but so far it has been a very restful and enjoyable Christmas!
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Isn't it cute?? I made one for myself and one for a friend as a Christmas gift. This print is a Christmas/winter print; however, I bought some Christmas fabric 60% off that could easily be used year-round (It is a blue, red, green, and white stripe). I made a few changes to the original design. First, of all my bow snaps on and off, which should be great for travel and storage! Second, instead of using batting and a liner fabric, I just used pieces of quilted material! Third, I sewed the velcro on before putting it together so my seams would not show through the "wrapping paper" and so I could get the velcro as close to the edges as possible.
Now, the first thing I did was cut out 2 pieces of pretty fabric. I chose to make mine 10"x10" so that it would easily accomodate dvds and standard sized books. Then I cut out two pieces of quilted fabric the same size. Being raised by a slightly OCD mother, I surged around every edge of every piece. (Mom always said the inside should look just as good as the outside...) Next I cut out ribbon and sewed them on the top and bottom pieces of the "wrapping paper." You don't have to do it on the bottom. I just thought it would make it look more like a paper wrapped gift.
Next I sewed a "wrapping paper" piece to a quilted piece with right sides together and did the same thing with the next two pieces. I went ahead and took the opportunity to sew the velcro into place at the top of the quilted piece on each of my two pieces. I also went ahead and sewed a snap on the top piece so I would not have any seams or threads inside my gift bag. (Another carry over from my mother teaching me how to sew...)
Then I put the two pieces together with right sides together with "wrapping paper" on "wrapping paper" and quilted fabric on quilted fabric. I also made an effort to match up the ribbons as close as possible. Next I sewed a seam all the way around, leaving an opening at the end of the quilted material.
At last it was time to turn the "pillowcase" of sorts right side out! Then I tucked the edges under at the opening and sewed a little seam to close it up. Finally, I could tuck the lining into the "gift bag."
And there you have it. An absolutely adorable re-usable gift bag that looks like a real paper wrapped present under the tree!! We will definitely be using these for years to come around our house, and I think these would also make a great gift with perhaps a little something inside them!
I am still thinking on how to do gift tags. I thought about tags that velcro on. I thought about paper tags with a hole in them that would fit on the snap for the bow. I also thought about sewing on a plastic material that you could slip a paper tag into, but I am still undecided. If you have a good idea on how to do the gift tag, let me know!
Monday, December 21, 2009
This will be a different year for us, and we have been trying to think about what kinds of Christmasy things we would like to do as a family this year. After Thanksgiving, I usually:
1) Put up a tree, outside lights, and a few trinkets
2) Finish making at least some of our gifts for extended family
3) Get Jessica's picture made with Santa
2009 Santa Picture
1) I only put up the tree because I figured I would be tired and pregnant enough after Christmas that I wouldn't want to put anything else away!
2) We made almost every single gift we are giving (more on that closer to Christmas).
3) We also have made a lot of holiday goodies, since we will not be enjoying all the goodies my mom and my sister usually bake!! We are making a lot of sugar cookies....pictures to come soon!!
4) We have watched a few Christmas Specials. We really liked Prep and Landing!
5) Sunday we got Jessica's picture made with Santa at a brunch after church.
6) We might make a gingerbread house with one of the girls down the street.
7) We plan to take the family to look at Christmas lights some evening this week. A guy down the street has an absolutely amazing display....I need to remember to take pictures.....apparently he lets people tour his backyard!
8) We are planning to do burgers for Christmas eve (Jessica will not touch a fast food burger. She will ONLY eat David's burgers!), and Christmas Day should be about the same as usual.
What are some of your favorite Christmas traditions? I am on the look out for other traditions we might like to try this year; however, I have also tried to choose things that don't add a lot of work or pressure. Doing a mostly homemade Christmas takes enough work!
Friday, December 18, 2009
Apparently Mommy never intends on getting around to writing Christmas letters again, so as the responsible kitty of the house, I have taken it upon myself to send our holiday greetings. I know you did not hear from me last year. My apologies, but it was not my fault. I knew something was up, but by the time I figured out what was going on Mom had had surgery for melanoma, Grandma had comes down to take care of that thing they call their “little bundle of joy,” and before I knew it they had all left to stay with Grandma and Grandpa while Mom recovered. Thankfully we are not having any of those shenanigans this year! However, once again there are some very strange things going on at our house...
I am getting the sneaking suspicion that Mom and Dad might be bringing home another one of those tiny human creatures that cry all the time. I don't see why they think we need another one of those around our house. I think one is more than enough!! I am not sure if her name is “Jessica” or “No Ma'am.” I hear both quite frequently, but I do know that she is a very loud creature who seems to get joy out of tackling me, using me as a rug, chasing me, pulling my tail, and in other words causing as much mischief as possible. What is really bad is that she has FRIENDS! They all come over to the house, and then they all shriek at me, chase me around the house, get in my face, and in general try to be as annoying as possible. On the bright side she does seem to have a genuine affection for me. Of course this is expected as everyone knows that I am a very lovable creature! She also has the problem solving skills of a cat....very impressive for a mere human. I have learned to stay near her, particularly when she is in the kitchen or on the porch. You never know when she is going to pull out some tasty treat that Mommy had hidden away or let me outside if Mommy forgot to bolt the door! Apparently the neighbors have noticed her cat-like problem solving skills because I have heard them talk about how nervous they get when she visits their houses. She also seems to have a cat-like radar for cookies, knives, and anything that can be taken apart. Thankfully she has not figured out that people and more importantly, kitty cats, can be taken apart because I am sure she would figure out how to do it!
Friends and family, Nutmeg is correct in his assumption that we are expecting a new addition to our family towards the end of May. We hope to get a good view of this new addition at the ultrasound on January 15th. Nutmeg is also correct in saying that Jessica is a bundle of energy with a certain exuberance for life, and she most definitely inherited her Daddy's problem solving skills! What something is called is of no interest to her unless she can figure out how to make it work or how to take it apart! I am sure that this next year will be full all kinds of excitement at our house!! We are so thankful for the blessings all around us, but most especially this year for good health.
Love, David, Amy, Jessica, (The New Baby), and Nutmeg
PS I apologize for the picture, but we haven't been able to get Jessica to sit still since sometime this summer!!
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Mommy has been rather preoccupied as of late so I have once again taken it upon myself to update everyone as to the goings on at our house. I must say it has been a very trying year for me… It all started when Daddy started going out of town looking for a job…whatever one of those is! Then Mommy and Daddy took off for a whole week and came back smelling like dog! Traitors! (Apparently they had stayed with Bella and Rocco’s parents.) As it turns out, they were looking for a house because Daddy had gotten a job. Then Mommy and Daddy took off AGAIN for a long weekend. They said they were signing papers for the house they bought, but things haven’t really been the same since. A few weeks later Daddy left. Then our furniture left! (This was a very traumatizing time for me!) Finally Mommy and I left. I was not so sure about all of this (hence the puking and peeing all over myself) until I realized that Daddy was at the new house! That made it all better!! I had missed our evening bonding time (Meaning he pets me and treats me like the most important member of our household…because of course I am!)
I know you think I am done, but no things continued to be even more traumatizing from there! Mommy was not feeling so well so she spent the next few months home with me, which I didn’t mind. However, I was not getting the kind of attention I deserve. Obviously, this called for drastic measures, so I made sure to get sick several times in the month of August to the point of having to go to the vet and have surgery. (That was NOT a part of my grand plan!) I know you are all thinking surely things cannot get any worse, but they do! All of the sudden I realized that there was less room available in Mommy’s lap for the most important member of this family. I know you all think I am joking, but seriously, she is beginning to look like the big blow up guy dressed in red in the neighbor’s front yard! Now I have to sit on the couch next to her because there is so little room! And do you want to know something scary??? Sometimes I like to put my head in her lap and my paws on her tummy, and you won’t believe this…but it MOVES!!! I have also noticed that Mommy and Daddy have finally decided to acquire furniture kitty-sized! There is this nice white bed just my size that even has bars on it to keep me from rolling off! Oh and the coolest item is this chair with wheels on the bottom of it. Mommy must have finally given up on training me to walk on a leash! The only thing that really throws me off is that they keep running me out of the room where they have put all of my new furniture. I have concluded that they must be saving it for my Christmas present this year!
Friends and family, I will try to clear up a few of Nutmeg’s observations! David and I are expecting a baby girl in January. We moved to the coast in May, and it has been a whirlwind year! David found the perfect job, I am working at Sylvan Learning Center part-time as I will be able to take Jessica with me, and we have found a church where our children will learn to love others like Jesus did. We are particularly thankful this year for our friends, both old and new, who have made moving to a new place that is far from our families easier, especially with all of the changes we have had in 2007 and expect in 2008. We wish you all a Merry Christmas and pray that God blesses you in 2008 with all that is most important!
See! I told you Mommy was huge! Just pretend her shirt is red, and I know you will agree that she looks like Santa!
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Mommy said that since everyone seemed to enjoy my Christmas card last year so much that I could write it this year. Between you and me, I think she is just trying to keep me busy so she can finish wrapping presents! Would you believe that the area under the tree is so filled with presents that there isn’t any room left for me to take a little catnap! And to top it all off even though I can’t read, I am pretty sure that none of those presents under there say “To: Nutmeg Love: Mommy and Daddy!” But don’t worry! I have made sure that Mommy won’t forget to wrap my presents!! Aside from my usual tricks of meowing really loudly to remind them to feed me and balking at Mommy’s efforts to toilet train me, I have started trying to climb the Christmas tree, using the ornaments as my toys, laying all over Mommy’s wrapping paper, and when I am particularly desperate, attempting to unwrap everyone else’s presents! So far I am not seeing any presents under the tree for me, but I am confident with more mischief making they will begin to appear! Oh and by the way, in case you were curious, Mommy really is trying to toilet train me. What I don’t understand is why I can’t use the other white bowl in the bathroom. I mean it is the perfect size to curl up in and take a nap and then when I need to go to the bathroom I don’t have to move because there is already a drain right there! Ah the convenience of modern day science! You know a cat had to design that one!
Well I suppose I had better get on with this letter and update you all as to the goings on at our house! Mommy says it has been quite a year. If she means the hurricane and three tornados that came through our town then I must agree! Currently there are a bunch of guys replacing every roof in our apartment complex. Their loud banging frequently disrupts my hourly naps. Why can’t they do that at night when I am wide-awake? Anyways, back to what has been going on at our house. Something really funny happened this year. Mommy decided to slow down on getting her PhD, and so Daddy decided he would get his PhD since he would need something to do for a couple years. Well, then Mommy decided that she wanted to get an EdS instead of a PhD after Daddy had already been accepted to his PhD program! Translation for all of you out there like me that do not speak graduateschoolspeak: Mommy is getting a degree between a Masters and a PhD and will start working in July (assuming she finds an internship), and Daddy is going to work on his PhD for the next couple years. This means he will continue drawing pictures of things that go on the computer. I keep meaning to ask him if he could draw a mouse for me…but I digress. I am very excited about Mommy having more time at night to play with me. Maybe now that she will be off in the summers she can take me to kitty daycamp! Maybe this means she will also have more brain cells to devote to remembering to feed me! Oh, Mommy says to tell you that we hope that God has blessed you with the things that are most important! (I wonder if she means food?) Daddy says to tell you Merry Christmas (NOT Happy Holidays)!
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
When I got married, I did not want to send out just a card with our names in it because I always thought those were kind of boring, and I didn't want to take the time to write a personal note in every single one! So, I started having our cat, Nutmeg, write our Christmas card every year from his perspective! If gave people an idea of what we were up to in a funny way so as not to sound like we were talking about how wonderful and perfect our lives are. I am planning to post a (very short) "Best of" series over the next day or so followed up with this year's Christmas letter. (I am not mailing out Christmas letters this year, unless I know it is a relative who does not have computer access. Last year I did not send out a letter because I had just had surgery, and the year before cost me a mint in postage!!) Do you do anything creative with your Christmas card or do you even do Christmas cards?
Friday, December 11, 2009
I also got a chance to discuss with the doctor in more detail what options we are looking at for delivery. Last time I was in they found a concentration of Strep Group B in my urine. About 25% of the population are carries for Strep Group B. While this is not a problem for those carriers, it can, though rare, have potentially fatal consequences for babies born to those parents. Because of this, all pregnant women are now tested towards the end of their pregnancy for the presence of Strep Group B in the vagina. If they test positive they have to have penicillin during delivery to cut down on the risk to the baby. This is what happened when I was pregnant with Jessica. If I had tested negative this time, they probably would not have given me the penicillin, but since they found it so early in my urine, we do not pass go, and we do not collect $200. This means that I have a fairly concentrated colonization, so no matter what the tests say later I will be getting penicillin during delivery.
They have to give the penicillin to you in the form of an iv because otherwise too much of it is metabolized before it gets to where it needs to go, so I will be hooked up the entire delivery no matter what. They also like to give you at least two rounds before the delivery, which takes several hours. This was of concern to me because we suspect that delivery of this child will be less than 6 hours and we live almost an hour away from the hospital to begin with (David actually works even farther than that from the hospital). Therefore, we decided that although it is not medically necessary, it would be good idea to do a scheduled induction for this child to avoid any unnecessary risk of complications. The doctor also said that given what we know about Jessica's delivery, we will probably start me on the penicillin before we start me on the petocin (usually it is done the other way around) to make sure we get 2 rounds of penicillin in me before delivery. He said it was unlikely that we would do an induction before May 23 (the week before my due date); however, we will know more once May gets here and we can see how things are progressing.
I did not have an epidural with Jessica, and I had hoped to avoid an epidural and petocin with this one; however, I think given the available information, an induction is the best choice for the baby. I still hope to avoid an epidural again because I just do not like having drugs in my system if I can help it (It makes me feel weird); however, since each labor and delivery is different that is a decision that will have to wait for the labor and delivery room.
Thursday, December 10, 2009
I always did a lot of helping out. Large families have to be team efforts. Overall, I think that was a good experience for me because it taught me to be responsible, how to take care of a child, how to share, and that I wanted very much to prevent having a child until I was ready!! For a period of time while my mom was sick, I also had a great deal more responsibility that I would call raising children (to a degree). This was very different from what I had previously been accustomed to. I was concerned about what kind of adults they were going to turn into, that they learned certain self-help skills, that they learned appropriate social skills, etc. While I did not punish them, I did develop my own way of correcting problematic behaviors and decisions. To this day, I stalk my siblings on facebook and maintain close relationships with them. It has allowed me to be aware of choices that they might not share with Mom and Dad and take action to suggest possible consequences for those actions that they might not be thinking about. I really do see most of them as my children more so than my siblings. I still get a little misty eyed when looking at my graphing calculator that has lady bug stickers all over it from my baby brother, when I think about picking my baby brother up from school when he was in kindergarten and he would jump into my arms, and when I think about how very quickly he is growing into an adult. Do I think helping raise my siblings at that time was harmful to me or a disadvantage for me? Not in the slightest. Yes, there are aspects of my childhood I probably missed out on (being able to be carefree and completely self-absorbed); however, none of us gets to experience everything in life. I also believe that it brought great joy to my life to have siblings/children to share the journey of life with.
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
I have also been giving some serious consideration to the purpose of prayer for several years now. It just did not make sense to me that we should ask our "Santa Claus in the sky" or our "Genie in a Bottle" for the desires of our heart and expect to get them because we asked. I have concluded that the purpose of prayer is actually to change us. When we thank God, it reminds us of all the things we have so we don't get hung up on what we do not have. When we tell God about the desires of our heart, it allows us to evaluate what is truly most important, His will not mine. When we share our joys and struggles with Him, it reminds us of who we are, and when we praise Him, it reminds us of who He is: The One who made it all including each of us, "flawed" in just the way He intended. It seemed to me that while all of these different aspects are important, the most developmentally appropriate one for a small child is being thankful; therefore, I created our Thankful Jar and stuffed it partially full with items that we can always be thankful for!
Monday, December 7, 2009
For the first several years we were married, I artfully draped leftover fabric under our tree as a skirt. Last year however I had a brainstorm! We had received a lovely table topper one year as a Christmas gift, but it just never looked right on our tables. So, last year I took out the scissors, made a cut from one corner to the center, serged the edges, and put it under the tree! I really like how it turned out!! I was going to turn the serged edges under and hem it, but I still haven't gotten around to it yet....maybe next year.....nahh! I would have included a picture of the tree. However, I have had lots of little kids over to the house recently, and I have been letting them redecorate the lower half of the tree (I only put soft or plastic ornaments on the bottom half). On Christmas Eve I intend on setting it right so it will be beautiful when we take pictures Christmas morning!
Friday, December 4, 2009
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Starting at 16 months we set out a potty chair and started encouraging her to sit on it. Jessica loves to be clapped for so of course we had to do lots of clapping any time she sat on her potty. One time she accidentally went to the bathroom on her potty which was exciting for us, but she didn't really make the connection. Then we didn't do anything for a few months. When we came back to it, we would take her to the potty every 15 minutes (which only lasted for a few hours one day). But we continued to encourage her to use it. Eventually this weekend something clicked, and she got it! She hasn't had an accident all week around the house!!! We really didn't spend that much time or effort potty training. We spent a couple hours on 3 different Saturdays, but I think the big thing was making her aware of the potty and nudging her without pushing her.
There has also been no expense in potty training her (Well, except for lots and lots of paper towels!!!). The potty chair is a hand-me down. I thought we would be using candy to encourage her to use the potty, but it turned out to be unnecessary! We also have not bought her training pants or underwear yet. Currently she just runs around the house in a short dress and turtleneck and goes to her potty whenever she needs to. (The awesome part is that I rarely have to ask her if she needs to go potty! She remembers herself!) Later I do plan to get her either some training pants or underwear depending on what we are ready for at that point. However, I am currently happy as a lark to have her potty trained around the house so we can stand to wait on the training pants and underwear a little longer! We will also be taking her potty with us when we travel for Christmas. We will still be using some diapers, but it should make cloth diapering easier while traveling! So "Yeah, Jessica!!!!!" 21 months old and potty trained (around the house)!!!
Monday, November 16, 2009
Saturday, November 14, 2009
We have used a delayed schedule for getting Jessica's shots, saving the vaccines for less deadly diseases until later. Chicken pox is one of those. The reason for doing this is I just don't see any point in giving her a whole bunch of shots all at one time. While I do not believe it causes Autism (everything I learned in school and professionally tells me otherwise), I do think it may be possible to "overload" a small baby's system. All other kinds of things early on can overload them. Why not a lot of vaccines?
David and I both had the chicken pox as children, although we think I had the worse case. One of the benefits of us having had the chicken pox already is that we know 100% that our unborn child will be protected because of my immunity. With the chicken pox vaccine, there would still be some risk because it is not 100% effective for all people throughout their lifetime. Hopefully, if Jessica does indeed have the chicken pox, she will begin to feel better soon!
Friday, November 13, 2009
However, on the way home I decided to drop by and pick up something at Sears that David had suggested we get for Jessica if we had a little left from getting the "something cute" for Jessica. Once again carrying Jessica into the store without the aid of a stroller, we trudged off towards the bathroom because by this point I had to go! Well, I didn't have a stroller, there was no child seat in the bathroom to strap her to, and she has recently become interested in climbing under bathroom stalls so I set her in my lap against her loud protests! Finally, we went to the toy section where we picked up a My First Craftsman Mechanics Engine! Jessica and I played with it this afternoon. We took it apart, and I told her which pieces were pistons, spark plugs, etc. She seemed to enjoy playing with it. Hopefully, she will find taking it apart more interesting than taking our furniture apart! Currently her daddy and her are sitting in the den taking it apart and putting it back together. Now off to enjoy some family time!
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Monday, November 9, 2009
On the whole, things seem to be going well, and we are very thankful for that. I am not one of those people who gets very excited about the pregnancy process. Don't get my wrong. I am delighted to be pregnant and am very much looking forward to this wee one joining our family. However, I do realize that pregnancy has its risks. My doctor said a quarter of his patients have miscarriages. I have heard that 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. I have known someone who died from a c-section. I have known someone who was paralyzed from an epidural. I know someone who almost bled to death during labor and delivery. I read a blog where the mother died a couple days after birth from postpartum seizures. I have known several children who were born with heart defects, some of which died. I have known a baby who was born without a brain and died shortly thereafter. At church, I heard of a baby who was born without lungs and died immediately after birth. All of these things are rare in the United States because of our excellent medical care; however, they do still happen. Because of this, I tend to view pregnancy as serious business. Indeed whether or not to get pregnant in the first place is a serious decision. Can you support and care for a child until it reaches adulthood? However, there is nothing more wonderful in the world or as challenging as the responsibility of raising a child to adulthood.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
For the last several years I have used only Dove Sensitive Skin products because Dove is the brand Ob-Gyns recommend to help avoid hormone imbalances. (Some people are more sensitive to them than others and at different points in your life.) I had tried to use their soap to wash my hair previously, and I was just not pleased with the results. My hair seemed really dry. Today when I took a shower, I thought "Hmmm, I haven't tried washing my hair with my nice, moisturizing homemade soap." I tried it, and it worked great! I couldn't tell a difference between that and using shampoo!!! David was pleased that it worked so well so he will be trying it in the near future. (Might I also mention that it is gentle enough to use on children once they understand to close their eyes.)
Next on my list is deodorant. I have been doing my research on this one, but have not finished checking out all of the options. The hair gel is likely to stay because I have almost a lifetime supply from when I bartered School Psychology services for haircuts and hair products. The aftershave I have not found a descent replacement for yet either. It may stay as well.
Friday, November 6, 2009
First and foremost I learned this year that Jessica prefers light summer dresses to pants. With that in mind I realized that I could make her several classic summer dresses in a cotton/poly blend and buy some long sleeved shirts to go under them in the winter. This means that the only things I would need to purchase this year would be: some long sleeved white shirts, maybe a couple short sleeved white shirts, a neutral cardigan sweater, and a new coat. I would make her some summer dresses and maybe another pair of leg-warmers. It seems to me that this is one of the most economical ways to outfit a little girl for the year, and I should be able to pass these items on to a later child because they are all classic styles! What do you think? Do you have any suggestions for outfitting little girls for the year? What about boys?
Thursday, November 5, 2009
I answered the phone, and the physician's assistant was on the phone. She said, "I am so glad you came in when you did. One of the moles we biopsied is a malignant melanoma." She didn't have to say anything else. I knew what malignant meant, and I knew what melanoma was. I had been to a visitation for my friend's aunt who died of melanoma. The rest of what she said was a blur. I fell to my knees and just stared at my baby girl sitting on the floor, wondering if she would grow up without a mother. The rest of the conversation was a blur. I think I managed to ask some good questions, but I am not really sure. The only thing I was sure of was that I would have to wait until after the holiday weekend to know how bad it was and what the prognosis was.
The hours and days that followed were torturous. I called my husband and told him first, but we couldn't talk long because he was finishing some things up at work so he could go ahead and come home for a long weekend. Next I called my mother. I told her, "Mom, you can NOT get upset. I feel like I am going to throw up. The doctor's office called and said I have melanoma." My mom was also very familiar with what melanoma is. She had been to that same visitation and had watched her quick decline before her death. To her credit, my mom remained calm and got as much information out of me as possible before telling me to call Liza, my neighbor across the street that has a son my age. Liza came over, prayed with me, and took me and Jessica back to her house where her mother-in-law and sister-in-law were very kind and encouraging to me to until David got home.
My mom got busy and called my aunt who explained that what I had been told on the phone actually sounded like it was probably a good prognosis. A friend whose dad has had melanoma multiple times called, and we spent Thanksgiving with them. Friends from church called as well, including a melanoma survivor. Up until Thanksgiving Day I had not known anyone who had survived melanoma. Now I know tons! When I still was unable to get out of my cycle of panic attacks, my dad flew down, and David took me to the ER. The hospital gave me some pills for the panic attacks. I took one, and it knocked me out cold for 6 hours. By that time, my dad was there - doing dishes, because that was the last thing on our minds at that point. I was rested. The chemicals in my brain had been reset, and I was ready, with the help of my dad and David, to start dealing with what we had been dealt.
As it turned out, I was in one of the earliest stages so I needed surgery asap, but I would not require any radiation or chemotherapy. They performed the surgery in office under local anesthesia. They took out both of them to make me happy. (I didn't want them accidentally taking out the wrong one! I am a little paranoid that way, but the doctor said if you can make a little paranoia work for you so that you are cautious but not controlled by it, then great!) The scars were about 4 inches long but not deep. However, I was not allowed to lift anything for 6 weeks after the surgery, and they told me to be very careful about bending my back. We did not want the stitches coming undone. My mother came down and stayed with us for a week until my sister and her boyfriend could drive down to get all of us and take us back to Memphis.
This part was difficult for me. Although I enjoyed having all of the quality time with my family, it was Jessica's first Thanksgiving and first Christmas, and it was not how I had wanted it to be. My husband had to stay home and work most of that time, and he has become a very important part of my support network. It was also so hard not being able to pick up my baby girl; however, I must admit she is now a very independent little girl and she figured out ways she could comfortably nurse even though I was rather limited in my range of motion. I was also difficult to care for because I was having a very difficult time emotionally and was in no condition to be solely responsible for a child. My mother was trying to let me be as independent as possible but realized towards the end of the 6 weeks that I needed someone to tell me what to do because my head just wasn't there. She probably bore the brunt of it, placing her life on hold to care for me and Jessica, both of which were quite a handful).
What more can you ask for? (Besides more children!)
They ended up riding up a bit during the day but not bad!
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Here is my review of the Kolcraft Contours Stroller. It is very easy to push and can go almost anywhere! My friend pushed the stroller and loved it! She could push it on dirt roads with one hand! You also don't have to air up the tires or worry about punctures. It folds down to be pretty compact. It will almost fit in the trunk of our Firebird, which is pretty impressive! I could probably make it fit if I had to, but we plan to use the umbrella stroller and Ultimate Baby Wrap for at least the first year. (At some point we will need to get a new vehicle, but we are pushing it off as long as possible because the Firebird is paid for!! For now I plan to use the stroller more around the neighborhood because we do A LOT of walking on mostly dirt roads; however, I think when the new baby is over a year old I will enjoy using it when going places as well.) The stroller is a little heavy to carry, but any double stroller is going to be heavy!
Another plus about the Kolcraft Contours Stroller is its versatility! One huge plus is that the kids aren't sitting next to each other so you end up with fewer fights. ("Mom, he's on my side. Mom, she's touching me. Mom, she hit me" ...I think you get the idea!) They can sit facing each other so they can play and talk to each other but still have their personal space. They can also be turned while in the seats to face away from each other, both face front, or both face back. I can see this working out great for time-out on the go! For even more versitility, you can also use up to two infant seats in place of the seats. You could also remove one seat to leave more space for shopping or equipment if you have a special needs child. For older children, there is a handhold on each side of the stroller.
Another plus when you live in such a warm climate is that the sunshades are better covering than most double strollers. The seats themselves and the footrests recline, which is great for infants and tired toddlers! There is a parent tray that has 2 cupholders and a compartment for snacks, keys, phone, etc. The basket underneath is quite spacious! I could see myself walking to our vet with the kids in the seats and our cat on a leash in the basket! My only complaint about the Kolcraft Contours Tandem Stroller is that the child seats have a removable bar instead of a tray. However, I have seen cloth trays that you can buy separately and velcro onto any stroller. I may make my own at some point!